Do you ever wonder why so many marriages go belly up? There are books. There are counselors/doctors with ideas. There are a ton of studies on the subject. And,In the United States there is a huge fight over what is a REAL marriage. Um, OK? Would love someone to figure that one out but basically the fight is over this, should two men marry each other? Or two women marry each other? Or should a man be allowed to have a bunch wives,especially, if his religion thinks it is a good idea? What I find even more interesting is we seem to have enough trouble staying married. My head totally spins. We fight to get married and then we can’t manage to keep the commitment?
I was once attending a girls ‘night out’ and a young woman announced, “You know, I am going to give you ladies some advice on how to keep your marriage happy.” We looked at her. Eyes wide. Two of us took a large sip of our drink and kept our mouths shut while she proceeded. “See, I am on my second marriage and we are so happy. We both failed at our first marriage and we know what went wrong so now we will not mess up. I bet we are happier than those people still in their first marriage!” Another huge sip and we didn’t say a word. I was wondering how much she had to drink! By the end of the night we were over her, ‘my marriage is perfect and I want to spread the joy’ but we wished her well. She is divorced and working on her third marriage. I guess some people just keep hoping. Oh, well Oh, honestly, I don’t remember her wonderful advice. My marriage was working fine; she was just white noise at the time. However,I do remember thinking, “She seems to be trying so hard to sell us on her happiness and wonderful marriage!” Why?
Anyway, I have often wondered if it helped us to stay married because we had two awesome examples. We both come from parents that are still married. My parents share our anniversary date. On September 5th they will be celebrating their 59th anniversary. Pretty awesome. My in-laws, are not too shabby themselves, 55 years!! Now, of course, I don’t think this is THE ONLY or MAIN reason but I just can’t help but wonder, you know, if it helped us out. We both came from a home with loving parents and witnessed loving couples. We both can attest to seeing a man and wife go through hard times together! We witnessed fights,make ups,dealings with hardships, laughing together and we are a product of them raising a family. Just have to wonder? Did they give us a piece of our foundation?
My parent’s Christmas Eve 2011
What do you think?